You Get What You Pay For It seems the “free” membership sites tend to be the ones most likely to have more fake profiles on them. Though, recently, I learned that Match.com averages 10 percent paid profiles and 90 percent free profiles. The unfortunate truth is that the paid singles don’t know who is free and who is not.
Verified, Schmerified Beware of the “verified” profiles that some sites tout. Even some of the more clever fake profiles can get “verified” by using a friend’s credit card. Unless the online dating site is going to go to the extra effort of meeting the single in person, doing a background check, and taking their online profile pictures for them (like FindtheItFactor.com, a personalized dating service), then “verified” means nothing more than the faker has access to a credit card. There are services that can do background checks for you, if you feel the person is worth looking into further. Confadate.com is one that can tell you if the person is who she says she is, and if she has a criminal history.
Read That Profile Another way to spot a fake is to really check out their profile. Most fake profiles don’t take time to fill in all the sections, or have trouble with correct grammar, or even basic English. Though I’m sure that’ll change if the fakes care enough to read this article—but don’t worry, they don’t. It’s a numbers game and they have tons of fake profiles all over the Internet to be worrying about. Especially, if someone flags them and has their account deleted, they have to create a whole new account. Do report a fake profile to your online dating service, it’s at least a step in the right direction—you’ll be helping out by not letting the next guy or girl be faked out.
If a lot of their profile says, “ask me,” or says very little at all, it’s probably a fake. Also, if the photo on the profile is suggestive in any way, (and you’re not on an alternative lifestyle or friends-with-benefits site, which by the way, are loaded with fake profiles) or looks like a modeling picture from a magazine, just be aware that there is a high probability that it’s a fake.
Fakers, Leave Me Alone, Please! Unfortunately, there is no surefire way to get these fakers to stop contacting you. They are relentless marketers, as this is a job for them. They need to make as many contacts as possible—remember it’s a numbers game. Even if you put on your profile in bold letters, “No Fakers or Sex Industry Professionals,” it won’t help. They don’t read profiles. They don’t have time, and they don’t care. You are doing the best you can by being smart and wary of potential fakers. My suggestion for your first contact, if you’re worried they’re not telling the truth, is to ask them outright. If a single you’ve contacted can’t answer basic questions, just gives you one or two-word answers, or gets angry that you’ve questioned if they’re legitimate or not, then move on. A real person would understand.
What’s the Online Dating Industry’s Stance? Only time will tell if things will change. Will enough singles get fed up with the not-so-great state of online dating and demand better from the industry? I’m actively standing up for a change. As a contributor to online dating industry forums, I continue to bring up the issues associated with fake profiles: liars, thieves and cheats, and the accountability of the industry for a solution. The standard industry reply is that “it’s not cost effective” and that “singles won’t pay for it.” Well, singles are “paying for it” in time, frustration, dissatisfaction and with their wallets. Quality over quantity is still the best policy. Time for a dating revolution!